Hate someone today because you'll restore the balance of the universe! The more people you hate the more you'll tip the balance toward world peace! (or something)
Atheism and secular living from a woman's point of view.
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
Saturday, September 22, 2012
Euthanasia
I've been on an emotional roller coaster all week, culminating with the euthanasia of a beloved pet. Sometimes I wish I could fantasize life "on the other side" for loved ones, but this dog was a real momma's boy. Non-existence is by far preferable to waiting decades for me to find him on the other side of the "Rainbow Bridge." Not to mention, he'd have to compete with my other lost pets for my attention. Tough on me, though.
Because I've been involved in pet rescue and I'm a big fan of one special breed, I have a lot of internet buddies and real-life friends who share my love for the breed and for rescue. We often don't share much else, though. So... I just say "thank you" when they invoke the Rainbow Bridge or tell me they'll pray for me.
Making the decision to euthanize is one of those tough times when being a rationalist is really inconvenient. As much as I admire the scientific method and need to know the whole truth of my pet's medical condition, I don't want to let go. If you've followed this blog you know that I've been reading books about decisions and beliefs (just started reading yet another one!). So besides feeling this pull I have the self-awareness of the reasons for my conflicting feelings.
Fortunately the specialist vet I eventually went to (at 1:00 a.m.!) gave me the whole ugly truth, more than the other two vets I'd seen in the previous two days. We could do the procedure, which was expensive but affordable for me, but it probably wouldn't make much of a difference and there were specific reasons why it might not even be possible to do it successfully. The gambler in me wanted to try anyway. The amygdala is in control of that part and said "DO ANYTHING TO SAVE HIM EVEN IF THERE'S A 5% CHANCE!" Then the prefrontal cortex stepped in and said "Save the money and use it to rescue the next one. You've done all you can reasonably do for this dog and it's his time."
Fortunately at that hour the vet hospital didn't need the exam room I was in so I had plenty of time to think it through. Or feel it through, as the case may be. When I put him up on his feet and let him walk around for awhile I could tell that he was suffering even though he still had that *spark* of life and his mind was still with me. An he still wanted to be with me, but I hated that he was suffering, and I couldn't bear to give him only temporary relief only to feel the same way or worse later. After all the tug-of-war between dreading his loss and knowing the "science" of why it was necessary, in the end compassion took over.
So I called the vet on the intercom and told her I was ready to let him go. We talked about euthanasia in general and I told her I've met people who became vet techs (veterinary nurses) because they didn't want to do euthanasias. She responded that she believes she's doing a service, and I had to agree. Then I blurted out "I wish we could do this for people" while she was giving my dog his first injection.
I have said this a few times before in random places and it generally makes people queasy. This is the first time someone agreed with me. She gave me a hug when it was over and told me she understood. I kind of wonder if she also understood how hard it is to believe in euthanasia for people in our society. We allow doctors to withhold food or remove "life support" or obey Do Not Resucitate orders and religious objections to life-saving care, but we don't allow them to "humanely" euthanize people.
For a time the Hemlock Society got a lot of attention, but all the right-to-die debates of the last century seem to have been quashed by the religious right. No more "Doctor Death" debates since Kevorkian went to prison. The question seems to have been settled. Mass murderers get euthanized by injection because it's "humane" but someone who's never harmed anyone has to suffer in agony until "nature takes its course."
As a society we need to consult all the parts of our collective conscious: our knee-jerk but ultimately selfish "NO!" response to the prospect of losing loved ones, the "death panel" in our collective subconscious that decides when additional intervention would be fruitless, and the compassionate part, which worries more about how the dying person feels than about how we would feel about letting them go.
Christians and other believers ask how we atheists can know what's right without an "objective morality" to consult. In some cases there is indeed an objective morality: ask yourself what is the objective of each possible course? Is it selfish or compassionate?
Because I've been involved in pet rescue and I'm a big fan of one special breed, I have a lot of internet buddies and real-life friends who share my love for the breed and for rescue. We often don't share much else, though. So... I just say "thank you" when they invoke the Rainbow Bridge or tell me they'll pray for me.
Making the decision to euthanize is one of those tough times when being a rationalist is really inconvenient. As much as I admire the scientific method and need to know the whole truth of my pet's medical condition, I don't want to let go. If you've followed this blog you know that I've been reading books about decisions and beliefs (just started reading yet another one!). So besides feeling this pull I have the self-awareness of the reasons for my conflicting feelings.
Fortunately the specialist vet I eventually went to (at 1:00 a.m.!) gave me the whole ugly truth, more than the other two vets I'd seen in the previous two days. We could do the procedure, which was expensive but affordable for me, but it probably wouldn't make much of a difference and there were specific reasons why it might not even be possible to do it successfully. The gambler in me wanted to try anyway. The amygdala is in control of that part and said "DO ANYTHING TO SAVE HIM EVEN IF THERE'S A 5% CHANCE!" Then the prefrontal cortex stepped in and said "Save the money and use it to rescue the next one. You've done all you can reasonably do for this dog and it's his time."
Fortunately at that hour the vet hospital didn't need the exam room I was in so I had plenty of time to think it through. Or feel it through, as the case may be. When I put him up on his feet and let him walk around for awhile I could tell that he was suffering even though he still had that *spark* of life and his mind was still with me. An he still wanted to be with me, but I hated that he was suffering, and I couldn't bear to give him only temporary relief only to feel the same way or worse later. After all the tug-of-war between dreading his loss and knowing the "science" of why it was necessary, in the end compassion took over.
So I called the vet on the intercom and told her I was ready to let him go. We talked about euthanasia in general and I told her I've met people who became vet techs (veterinary nurses) because they didn't want to do euthanasias. She responded that she believes she's doing a service, and I had to agree. Then I blurted out "I wish we could do this for people" while she was giving my dog his first injection.
I have said this a few times before in random places and it generally makes people queasy. This is the first time someone agreed with me. She gave me a hug when it was over and told me she understood. I kind of wonder if she also understood how hard it is to believe in euthanasia for people in our society. We allow doctors to withhold food or remove "life support" or obey Do Not Resucitate orders and religious objections to life-saving care, but we don't allow them to "humanely" euthanize people.
For a time the Hemlock Society got a lot of attention, but all the right-to-die debates of the last century seem to have been quashed by the religious right. No more "Doctor Death" debates since Kevorkian went to prison. The question seems to have been settled. Mass murderers get euthanized by injection because it's "humane" but someone who's never harmed anyone has to suffer in agony until "nature takes its course."
As a society we need to consult all the parts of our collective conscious: our knee-jerk but ultimately selfish "NO!" response to the prospect of losing loved ones, the "death panel" in our collective subconscious that decides when additional intervention would be fruitless, and the compassionate part, which worries more about how the dying person feels than about how we would feel about letting them go.
Christians and other believers ask how we atheists can know what's right without an "objective morality" to consult. In some cases there is indeed an objective morality: ask yourself what is the objective of each possible course? Is it selfish or compassionate?
Monday, September 10, 2012
September 11 Remembrance Video
The music and photos of this school project really go together and convey the events of the day very well. I give the student an "A" I give the extremists who did this an "F" for thinking they could advance their warped theology's cause this way, but an A+ for inspiring the growth of atheism in the U.S.
Saturday, September 8, 2012
Getcher links right here!
Some interesting news this week:
The South Korean government comes out against creationists.
Jen McCreight quits blogging. She was part of the "A+" movement for nicer atheism (or something), and also part of Freethought Blogs, which had some drama recently when PZ Myers kicked Thunderf00t off the Freethought Blogs site. I didn't follow her blog closely but it's distressing to see her go. Nobody should have to deal with sexist crap, though the cretins kind of proved her point about the way women are treated by male atheists. Plasma Engineer summarizes the history of Atheism+ and the fallout on his Something Surprising blog. In part two he links the commentaries of several male bloggers/vloggers.
Crazyass super-extremist fundamentalist Christian visited my campus this week. I was going to post the local paper's description but it can't top this blog post by the Ohio University Skeptic Society after the nutter visited Ohio U. in 2009. It's encouraging to see that he is apparently 100% unsuccessful in getting anyone to take his nutty theology seriously.
A lucky 13 kids were molested (allegedly) by a 25-year-old music "minister." His father, the former pastor, embezzled from the church before taking a powder. Lovely people, these Christians.
Mentally disabled Christian teen accused of blasphemy in Pakistan is released on bail. This Islamic example of letting religion rule the state should give some dominionist Christians pause... we can hope. The cleric who first accused the girl is now in trouble himself. (if you can trust Fox News)
Rather nice coexistence piece by a Christian (who also blogs for Patheos)
In Egypt, women and girls are being harrassed and some aren't putting up with it.
How to tell if your religious liberty is at risk. Something to share with believers.
Fiji is still a Christian nation, at least until the military who took over the government in a coup finish writing a new constitution.
Jesuit Catholic instruction at Georgetown University includes a biased course in Hinduism. Hindus are surprised. I'm not. But all is not lost. McDonald's is opening vegetarian fast-food restaurants for them. No cows sacrificed for a sandwich, but will that matter to Hindus?
The United States Commission on International Religious Freedom reprinted an op-ed about Burmese prejudice against muslims from an unlikely source: The Indianapolis Star
The Catholic church is still reluctant to deal with perverts. How can they object to a priest doing a reading at a gay marriage and then rationalize pedophilia?
Meanwhile, the Episcopal diocese is cooperating on an investigation of one of its priests.
The South Korean government comes out against creationists.
Jen McCreight quits blogging. She was part of the "A+" movement for nicer atheism (or something), and also part of Freethought Blogs, which had some drama recently when PZ Myers kicked Thunderf00t off the Freethought Blogs site. I didn't follow her blog closely but it's distressing to see her go. Nobody should have to deal with sexist crap, though the cretins kind of proved her point about the way women are treated by male atheists. Plasma Engineer summarizes the history of Atheism+ and the fallout on his Something Surprising blog. In part two he links the commentaries of several male bloggers/vloggers.
Crazyass super-extremist fundamentalist Christian visited my campus this week. I was going to post the local paper's description but it can't top this blog post by the Ohio University Skeptic Society after the nutter visited Ohio U. in 2009. It's encouraging to see that he is apparently 100% unsuccessful in getting anyone to take his nutty theology seriously.
A lucky 13 kids were molested (allegedly) by a 25-year-old music "minister." His father, the former pastor, embezzled from the church before taking a powder. Lovely people, these Christians.
Mentally disabled Christian teen accused of blasphemy in Pakistan is released on bail. This Islamic example of letting religion rule the state should give some dominionist Christians pause... we can hope. The cleric who first accused the girl is now in trouble himself. (if you can trust Fox News)
Rather nice coexistence piece by a Christian (who also blogs for Patheos)
In Egypt, women and girls are being harrassed and some aren't putting up with it.
How to tell if your religious liberty is at risk. Something to share with believers.
Fiji is still a Christian nation, at least until the military who took over the government in a coup finish writing a new constitution.
Jesuit Catholic instruction at Georgetown University includes a biased course in Hinduism. Hindus are surprised. I'm not. But all is not lost. McDonald's is opening vegetarian fast-food restaurants for them. No cows sacrificed for a sandwich, but will that matter to Hindus?
The United States Commission on International Religious Freedom reprinted an op-ed about Burmese prejudice against muslims from an unlikely source: The Indianapolis Star
The Catholic church is still reluctant to deal with perverts. How can they object to a priest doing a reading at a gay marriage and then rationalize pedophilia?
Meanwhile, the Episcopal diocese is cooperating on an investigation of one of its priests.
Friday, September 7, 2012
An ordinary woman can be an atheist
Browsing through other blogs I see a lot of "creds," including women who blog as "polemicists" or "feminists."
eh, I'm an feminist in the sense that I want to do what I want to do and I don't want men, especially men who don't know me, telling me what to do. I don't want women to tell me what to do, either, so that really makes me a free thinker. (One exception: my boss can tell me what to do but only for 40 hours per week and she can't tell me who to fuck or who not to fuck or how to do it when I do it, which she fortunately isn't nosy enough to be tempted to do even if she was a fundamentalist nutter)
Some lady bloggers began their blog "careers" as ordinary people then got creds by being bigger-than-life bloggers. Jen McCreight became famous for "Boobquake," which was a "movement" (heh, couldn't resist) objecting to some fundy muslim cleric's claim that earthquakes were due to women being boobish... or something. I wasn't paying attention then and only found her blog later. At the time she was an undergrad at Purdue. Now she's a graduate student and has flown around going to conferences speaking on student activism. She did a good thing, but her "creds" were really just having a point of view and being willing to speak out, then encouraging other students to make a point (or two.. haha couldn't resist that one). She didn't write her blog as a scientist, just as a person who believes in the right to be an atheist in the U.S.
The thing about ordinary women, who aren't ex-pastors or philosophers or PhDs in one of the "hard" sciences or evolutionary biology, is that ordinary women in Christianity are often the invisible glue holding together passé religions (i.e., all religions). They are the "church ladies" and the moms and wives who make it possible for crazyass men to take crazyass positions.
I was expected to be one of these religious women, because church theology (doesn't matter which denomination) is so insane that it needs a translator who will put it into everyday parlance.
Some of my facebook friends are just such people. They "praise god" for a good outcome after an illness or scary event that god didn't apparently forsee so they had to praise him after he figured out how to fix his oversight. If they didn't pray for the happy ending, they credit god with being magical beneficial, but if they did pray for it, they thank him. Granted, more of my FB friends are women and my women friends are chattier on FB, but I think they kind of represent what happens in families and social circles in general.
Today I was emotionally blackmailed with typical FB crap again:
eh, I'm an feminist in the sense that I want to do what I want to do and I don't want men, especially men who don't know me, telling me what to do. I don't want women to tell me what to do, either, so that really makes me a free thinker. (One exception: my boss can tell me what to do but only for 40 hours per week and she can't tell me who to fuck or who not to fuck or how to do it when I do it, which she fortunately isn't nosy enough to be tempted to do even if she was a fundamentalist nutter)
Some lady bloggers began their blog "careers" as ordinary people then got creds by being bigger-than-life bloggers. Jen McCreight became famous for "Boobquake," which was a "movement" (heh, couldn't resist) objecting to some fundy muslim cleric's claim that earthquakes were due to women being boobish... or something. I wasn't paying attention then and only found her blog later. At the time she was an undergrad at Purdue. Now she's a graduate student and has flown around going to conferences speaking on student activism. She did a good thing, but her "creds" were really just having a point of view and being willing to speak out, then encouraging other students to make a point (or two.. haha couldn't resist that one). She didn't write her blog as a scientist, just as a person who believes in the right to be an atheist in the U.S.
The thing about ordinary women, who aren't ex-pastors or philosophers or PhDs in one of the "hard" sciences or evolutionary biology, is that ordinary women in Christianity are often the invisible glue holding together passé religions (i.e., all religions). They are the "church ladies" and the moms and wives who make it possible for crazyass men to take crazyass positions.
I was expected to be one of these religious women, because church theology (doesn't matter which denomination) is so insane that it needs a translator who will put it into everyday parlance.
Some of my facebook friends are just such people. They "praise god" for a good outcome after an illness or scary event that god didn't apparently forsee so they had to praise him after he figured out how to fix his oversight. If they didn't pray for the happy ending, they credit god with being magical beneficial, but if they did pray for it, they thank him. Granted, more of my FB friends are women and my women friends are chattier on FB, but I think they kind of represent what happens in families and social circles in general.
Today I was emotionally blackmailed with typical FB crap again:
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| (random friends' group photo grabbed from the web - lots of these out there, but few of men in such groupings, FYI) |
Saturday, September 1, 2012
These are the links that was, erm... were
Romney says releasing his tax returns would violate his religious privacy (even though he's released two years). Fellow Mormon politician John Huntsman calls bullshit, sort of.
TV station owned by Mormons refuses to air "The New Normal." I wonder how they'd feel about "Sister Wives."
Another child-raping closet homosexual Bible-thumping evangelical anti-gay spokesperson for purity gets arrested.
Prostitute asks God for forgiveness and winds up being raped and set on fire. Good going, God. I guess they needed more prostitutes in Heaven.
Washington state Catholic church ignores state election law unless you count their rationalizations.
Baptists are distressed by the Clergy Project (despite what they say at the end of this article) and they stick with Todd Akin.
Pentecostal teen fired by Burger King for wearing a skirt instead of slacks. She claims she can't wear "men's clothes" but she can work at a job? What a ridiculous religion.
Boko Haram sect of Islam wreaks havoc on Nigeria. Now Nigeria wants to "talk" with them. Does that mean they win?
Obama's delegate to special envoy to the Organization of Islamic Cooperation gives an interview. It's rather impressive that the OIC is addressing the problems caused by some of the crazier Muslims. Teh cRaZy runs so deep there that I wonder what can be done. At least the U.S. has someone who can speak their language instead of crazy cowboy talk of the previous generation. Quotable quote quotes the Quran:
Meanwhile, Mitt Romney needs an evangelical embassador to relate to people in his own country. The guy's mentor and second father was Jerry Falwell. *shudders*
TV station owned by Mormons refuses to air "The New Normal." I wonder how they'd feel about "Sister Wives."
Another child-raping closet homosexual Bible-thumping evangelical anti-gay spokesperson for purity gets arrested.
Prostitute asks God for forgiveness and winds up being raped and set on fire. Good going, God. I guess they needed more prostitutes in Heaven.
Washington state Catholic church ignores state election law unless you count their rationalizations.
Baptists are distressed by the Clergy Project (despite what they say at the end of this article) and they stick with Todd Akin.
Pentecostal teen fired by Burger King for wearing a skirt instead of slacks. She claims she can't wear "men's clothes" but she can work at a job? What a ridiculous religion.
Boko Haram sect of Islam wreaks havoc on Nigeria. Now Nigeria wants to "talk" with them. Does that mean they win?
Obama's delegate to special envoy to the Organization of Islamic Cooperation gives an interview. It's rather impressive that the OIC is addressing the problems caused by some of the crazier Muslims. Teh cRaZy runs so deep there that I wonder what can be done. At least the U.S. has someone who can speak their language instead of crazy cowboy talk of the previous generation. Quotable quote quotes the Quran:
We have made it clear, since President Obama took office, that what terrorists are doing contradicts the teaching of Islam. However there are limits to what the US can do. This requires the attention of the Islamic world, and we have no problem to say that this is not consistent with the teachings of Islam. The Quran states: “God does not change the condition of people until they change what is in themselves.” We support all constructive attempts to change in the Muslim world.
Meanwhile, Mitt Romney needs an evangelical embassador to relate to people in his own country. The guy's mentor and second father was Jerry Falwell. *shudders*
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